Posts tagged ‘debra the dating diva’

Sneak Preview – my new eBook! Coming out in 3 weeks!

It’s almost here! Get a sneak peak of How to be a Man Magnet in this interview podcast I just did!


Watch me on TAKE ME OUT on FOX! It premiers June 7th on Fox!

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What’s a busy guy to do?

How does a busy guy let a woman know he’s interested when he can’t call, write, or hang often? A guy wrote in to ask me this question that I hear and have experienced so often that I decided to post an entry about it.

He works a ton and wasn’t sure how to let a girl know he was interested because it was hard to plan dates or write or call enough. Here’s what I told him.

This is a common problem. The key is making the girl aware of your situation in a way that doesn’t sound like it’s an excuse for not making an effort. Instead make her feel special and feel that even though you have such a crazy work schedule that the free time you do get, that you want to spend with her. Do things when you do have time to make her feel special and loved so she doesn’t feel insecure when you haven’t spoken or seen each other in a while. For example, on the date, talk about what you would like to do or take her to on the next date do so she knows you want to see her even if you can’t plan the exact date or time you will do it yet. Keep her in the loop on what you’re up against but don’t bore her with the details. When you do have time to chat or hang, make it count. Make her excited to get to see you again!

What do you think? How do you get around dating as a busy guy?

How girls get ready. Plus, 3 simple ways to impress a woman…

Here we are getting ready for another girls night out (actually Cassie’s Birthday.) But, while we’re at it, I wanted to capture it so you men could what goes into getting ready for a night out- be it a girls night, or a date. And finally, a bit of advice from the ladies and myself:

* Compliment a woman on her outfit or hair when you first see her. Whether she took 10 minutes or an hour, she put thought into it. Sometimes I think about my outfit before I get out of bed or when I’m in the car home from somewhere else and other times I try on 10 outfits.¬† I even pick out shoes based on the guy’s height – maybe a bit extreme – but it happens. Either way, it counts. She’ll appreciate that you noticed and be excited to get ready the next time she sees you!

* If you’re planning the date, let the woman know what the date will be or at least the attire so she knows what to wear. In my opinion, there’s nothing worse than being unprepared for the occasion and in an outfit that isn’t functional. For example, if I put on my highest heels, I don’t want to be walking miles on a date, or if I’m wearing goofy flats, I wouldn’t be excited about a night our of dancing.

* Bring a coat or extra jacket that you can take off and put over her shoulders if she gets cold. Its very sweet and chivalrous and will break down her defenses because its a gesture that shows that you care about her well being.