Date ideas. Dinner is not your only option!

Okay, so the reason I filmed this particular video is because I started the Rev Abs  90-day challenge fitness challenge which includes 3 months of pre-planned meals from Sunfare. So my dating life is going to have to change a bit because I can’t go to dinner yet. I’ve already gone ice-skating, and have a photography museum date and circus show date planned because I refuse to go to tea every night.  But, for those of you NOT on a diet, you still may want to know what girls are up for doing  on dates besides going to dinner so the two of you can have fun experiences together while you get to know each other. Spice it up and get her looking forward to something exciting! Check out our girl chat about fun non-food-related date ideas!


Sneak Preview – my new eBook! Coming out in 3 weeks!

It’s almost here! Get a sneak peak of How to be a Man Magnet in this interview podcast I just did!

Debra and Jesse’s date on TAKE ME OUT on FOX – extended footage!

Debra and Jesse’s date on TAKE ME OUT on FOX – extended footage!

Watch me on TAKE ME OUT on FOX! It premiers June 7th on Fox!

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What’s a busy guy to do?

How does a busy guy let a woman know he’s interested when he can’t call, write, or hang often? A guy wrote in to ask me this question that I hear and have experienced so often that I decided to post an entry about it.

He works a ton and wasn’t sure how to let a girl know he was interested because it was hard to plan dates or write or call enough. Here’s what I told him.

This is a common problem. The key is making the girl aware of your situation in a way that doesn’t sound like it’s an excuse for not making an effort. Instead make her feel special and feel that even though you have such a crazy work schedule that the free time you do get, that you want to spend with her. Do things when you do have time to make her feel special and loved so she doesn’t feel insecure when you haven’t spoken or seen each other in a while. For example, on the date, talk about what you would like to do or take her to on the next date do so she knows you want to see her even if you can’t plan the exact date or time you will do it yet. Keep her in the loop on what you’re up against but don’t bore her with the details. When you do have time to chat or hang, make it count. Make her excited to get to see you again!

What do you think? How do you get around dating as a busy guy?

Watch me on Millionaire Matchmaker! on Bravo

Okay, so it’s the rerun from last night. But, I was so busy planning my viewing party (shoving everything in my place into my closet, and burning the chocolate covered strawberries) that I didn’t have a chance to blog!  See what happens when I tame a player! And I’ve got some funny expressions they’ve cut into the scenes…So much was edited down but I’m happy to blog about what made the cutting room floor!  Just ask! Let me know what you think of the episode and of my site! 🙂

Millionaire Matchmaker date pic

The end of the date!

My viewing party!

And here are some pics from Brian’s Birthday party with me and his Benchwarmer girls. Even his mom came to the club!

Brian's Birthday Party with the Benchwarmer girls

And finally….. here’s the link to watch the episode!

Signs to make up or break up…

A lot happens in life and relationships in six months. Have you put your time in or is your time up? In my book, if you get past three months, you know you’re in a relationship with someone you like enough to attempt to make it work with. But in 6 months, you find out if you two actually work or if you’re falling apart.

Attraction will only take you so far. Over time, you find out if their personality calms you down or riles you up. Are you communicating or constantly miscommunicating? Does your significant other add value and joy to your life or are they sucking the life out of you?

Lets take a closer look at signs that may describe your relationship:  diamond lane, road work ahead,  icy road stay clear!

Diamond Lane

If your relationship is in the diamond lane, your girlfriend brings more to your life than she sucks out of it. You’d rather have her around than not. Of course, you have the freedom and space to do what you want to do in life and she supports it as you support her goals. You both envision a similar future together and have even begun to discuss the next steps like possibly living together or if you want kids one day. She fits nicely into your life and social and family scene.  You may have your ups and downs but you don’t let a bad mood or a innocent remark turn into a misunderstanding more often than not. When you have disagreements you hear each other out and truly and openly want the best for each other.  She’s a keeper that you want to make your partner for life.

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How girls get ready. Plus, 3 simple ways to impress a woman…

Here we are getting ready for another girls night out (actually Cassie’s Birthday.) But, while we’re at it, I wanted to capture it so you men could what goes into getting ready for a night out- be it a girls night, or a date. And finally, a bit of advice from the ladies and myself:

* Compliment a woman on her outfit or hair when you first see her. Whether she took 10 minutes or an hour, she put thought into it. Sometimes I think about my outfit before I get out of bed or when I’m in the car home from somewhere else and other times I try on 10 outfits.  I even pick out shoes based on the guy’s height – maybe a bit extreme – but it happens. Either way, it counts. She’ll appreciate that you noticed and be excited to get ready the next time she sees you!

* If you’re planning the date, let the woman know what the date will be or at least the attire so she knows what to wear. In my opinion, there’s nothing worse than being unprepared for the occasion and in an outfit that isn’t functional. For example, if I put on my highest heels, I don’t want to be walking miles on a date, or if I’m wearing goofy flats, I wouldn’t be excited about a night our of dancing.

* Bring a coat or extra jacket that you can take off and put over her shoulders if she gets cold. Its very sweet and chivalrous and will break down her defenses because its a gesture that shows that you care about her well being.